Closer: Notes from the Orgasmic Frontier of Female Sexuality (Exploded Views) - Sarah Barmak

Just starting this. I am very open when it comes to the topic of sex, so none of this should shock me. My neighbor turned bright red when I told what I was reading. I get how some people shy away from talking openly about the topic, but not me. I last week requested a vacation day stating that the time off was needed for having a shit ton of sex with the hubby while my kids spend the day with my sister. Can't wait for the 30th of this month, my request was approved. And I am curious how a clit rubbing demonstration if done, and an hour long orgasm, sign me up... please!?!?




We think of the modern woman as sexually liberated – if anything, we’re told we’re oversexed. Yet a striking number of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives. Over half of women report having a sexual complaint, whether that’s lack of desire or difficulty reaching orgasm. But this issue doesn’t get much press; the urge is to ignore or medicalize it (witness the quest for ‘pink Viagra’). If so many ordinary women suffer from sexual frustration, then perhaps the problem isn’t one that can be addressed by a pharmaceutical fix – or isn’t a problem. Maybe we need to get hot and bothered about a broader cultural cure: a reorienting of our current male-focused approach to sex and pleasure, and a rethinking of what’s ‘normal.’


Using a blend of reportage, interview and first-person reflection, journalist Sarah Barmak explores the cutting-edge science and grassroots cultural trends that are getting us closer to truth of women’s sexuality. Closer reveals how women are reshaping their sexuality today in wild, irrepressible ways: nude meetings, how-to apps, trans-friendly porn, therapeutic vulva massage, hour-long orgasms and public clit-rubbing demonstrations – and redefining female sexuality on its own terms.